It’s confusing why so many men with amazing bodies, powerful brains, easy humor, etc. still doubt themselves when it comes to women. That they still don’t feel worthy of the type of women they most want.

This doubt pushes them to achieve, train, and generally delay all sorts of gratification. Yet the problem persists.

Maybe you are in this situation. Consider, though, that whatever you're striving for, there are many men out there who already have what you wish to gain and are still walking around with doubt. What makes you think you'll be any different?

I think your problem is that you are attempting to annihilate doubt by doing impressive things.

It's hard for you to notice the futility of your actions because what you're doing is genuinely impressive or difficult, and so feels worthwhile. You have to dig deeper.

The difficult thing, the thing that speaks to your status more than anything, is confronting that doubt directly. To not let it whisper false promises into your ear.

In practice that means having the courage to love and accept yourself. It is courage because it's not easy. Think about what you would have to do if you didn't allow yourself to imagine you needed something else before you could be loved. You wouldn't have any excuse to not pursue the women you desire. You would have to embrace incompatibility instead of trying to force a connection. You would have to step into uncertainty instead of creating situations that remove it. You would have to accept your flaws viscerally enough to be present and charismatic instead of flinching at the reminder of them and being too preoccupied to be spontaneous.

Your doubt is your greatest call to action. The challenge staring you in the face (that most men aren't aware of) is the challenge to accept and love yourself in this moment. Before anything happens.